Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
This all sounds great in theory but not in the real world. Divorce is a traumatic experience which leaves deep pain that lingers for years. Putting on a strong face and marching your way through the holidays is much easier said than done.
Below I have listed several tips to help overcome some of the stress.
Make a Plan
Planning for the holidays after a divorce takes extra thought. No longer are you just planning on what to do, but now you have to determine when you’ll be able to do it with your own children. A schedule needs to be made showing which parent gets the kids at what time and on what days. It is good to plan this ahead of time so you can still enjoy the holiday season while your kids are with your ex. The holidays for kids from divorce families make it hard for the kids to bounce from one parent to the other, so you need to minimize this as much as possible.
Coping with unexpected reminders
If you have children then you probably had many Christmas with your ex. Most likely you have many memories and decorations of Christmas past. Just be prepared for what you may find while unpacking those Christmas decorations. You may uncover something from your first Christmas, or some pictures from that special family get together or maybe items from an important holiday event. If you are not careful you may get caught off guard by such reminders. You will have to accept the fact that these things are just going to happen. Just be prepared and stay strong. It will become easier in time.
Start a new tradition
The holiday season is about family traditions and a divorce will obviously have a huge impact on your traditions… past… present… and future. That’s why it is so important to start a new tradition… a tradition that involve just you and your kids so that you can move ahead and start new memories.
Still keep the old
While it’s important to start new traditions, the holidays for kids from divorce families need to maintain old traditions as well. You should provide them the stability they need so past traditions are not completely lost. If you can not uphold the tradition exactly as it was, then do not be afraid to modify plans so as to make it work.
Plan for yourself
Because of a divorce you will probably have to go a day or so without your kids while they spend time with the ex and their family. This can be a great opportunity for you to plan some activities for yourself. Some activity you have been planning to do. It may include a visit to an old friend or a short trip to a nearby town. Maybe just a visit to the park or zoo. The winter season always brings out activities that might not be as popular as in the summertime but it can still be enjoyable. Just bundle up for the cooler temperatures. The main thing is to just relax and enjoy yourself.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
By Caleb Jonsun
Adultery is by far the most adversarial type of divorce case. Divorce proceedings involving adultery are, as a general rule, very stressful for both spouses.
There are many reasons why people engage in adultery. Anyone can feel insecure, lonely and in need of validation at any time, even within a long and stable relationship. Individuals and relationships go through many different stages. The needs of the spouses can change over time, because of age, background, personality traits and emotional needs. In most adultery cases, the cheating spouse is not seeking a divorce. Generally, they are not thinking that he or she might end up losing close contact with their children.
Not every adultery situation ends in a divorce. But when it does and minor children are involved, then the behavior of the unfaithful spouse can have a negative effect on his or her custody and visitation rights. This is particularly true if that same parent devoted more time to his or her extramarital relationship than to his or her own children.
In a divorce, proceeding adultery can provoke very strong animosities between the two parties. The innocent partner might want to punish the cheating spouse by not allowing him or her to relate to their children. If you are granted custody of your children and your unfaithful ex-spouse was granted visitation rights, the last thing you want to do is to interfere with those rights. Keep in mind that even when engaging in adultery, a parent can still be a great parent. Not only that, but also keep in mind that the visitation order is a mandate of the court that you must observe. If you fail to comply with a court order you might be found in contempt. In some states, being found in contempt of court may mean jail time.
Therefore, no matter how much you hate your ex-spouse, do not interfere with the visitation schedule approved by the court. This can result in you losing custody of your children, having them taken away from you, and/or spending time in jail.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Learn how to use Facebook & MySpace to investigate and win your child custody case. For fathers, you can avoid common mistakes and win child custody.
It is important to understand that certain factors will jeopardize your custody or visitation rights, so learning the facts to using Facebook and MySpace will be very helpful.
Since each state is different, you need to check with the laws of your state before proceeding.
And... as always... seek the advice of a qualified family lawyer or family attorney.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Richard Kent, a family lawyer at Fairfield, Conn. answers some important questions.